BrainVacation.com - Things Not To Say On Your Next Date

So I kind of had a date with a guy the other day. As we were talking, he told me a few things about himself without realizing it. I will list the things he said, and what it tells me about him. Some people may think I'm an ass for this, but I'm the type of person who would tell someone they have something on their face while everyone else would let them walk around all day looking stupid because they don't want to hurt the person's feelings. Incase you didn't know already, I'm a very open and honest person.

What he said:

It sometimes annoys people when I diva them. If I don't like what they're saying, I'll put my hand up and "shush" them.

What that tells me about him:

He doesn't have respect for other people or their opinions.

What he said:

I get violent with my little brother all the time. I broke his leg three times. I threw him down the stairs once.

What that tells me about him:

He is most likely an abusive boyfriend also. If he gets violent with family, he may get violent with me. This brings extra concern if he mostly gets violent with family members who are not normal blood relatives (Step dad, step brother, half brother) because I'm not a blood relative. I'll admit that my brother and I have had our share of arguments and fights, but we never got in a fist fight or broke any bones.

What he said when I asked his age:

What he accidentally said later on:

I'm moving out of my dad's house when I turn 18. I told you I was 18 because I didn't think you would give me a chance if you knew I was 17.

What that tells me about him:

He will lie to me if he thinks it will benefit him. I may have given him a chance if he didn't lie to me. Dating a minor is a risk. Most people don't want to take that risk, but there are people who will. Regardless, this is a risk that your potential boyfriend should be aware of.

What he said at first:

I'm looking for a serious relationship. Most gay people are all about sex and I don't like that.

What he asked me later:

Do you wear boxers or briefs? Do you like rough sex or gentle sex?

What that tells me about him:

He was obviously feeding me the same lines as anyone else when we first met. I don't care to hear someone say that they are interested in a serious relationship. That is something you prove, not say. The purpose of dating is to get to know someone and figure out if you want to be in a serious relationship with them. With that said, it doesn't bother me when some says they are interested in serious relationships. Also, it doesn't bother me if someone asks what type of sex I like. What bothers me is when someone says that they are interested in serious relationships, and then asks what type of sex I like. If you truly are interested in a serious relationship, you're getting too personal for the first date. Either you want something serious or you want sex. Make up your mind and be honest.

I could overlook the last two items, but the first two are big issues. I don't have any room in my heart for someone who would be abusive and disrespectful towards me.